It wasn’t until I worked with a NLP coach and Time Line Therapist that I gained true awareness. I had been practicing yoga for 20 plus years and NLP enlightened me in a heartbeat. I practiced personal development and be better and that’s how I stumbled into NLP, however I had no idea of the shift that I needed in order to be the much more relaxed and the carefree woman that I am today.
Can you be confident and feel ‘not good enough’?
Outwardly I was confident, successful, quite funny and popular and the person that people often turn to for advice. I am still all of those things but I was also plagued by a self-doubt that I was not good enough. You didn’t know because I didn’t know either! My resilience has helped me get this far, however I knew that I have held my self back at times and also self-sabotaged when presented with opportunities that could have been amazing.
When did it start? I don’t know and it doesn’t really matter. Reflecting back, I can remember times when a teacher would look at me in such a way that I felt completely judged that I didn’t fit in or belong. When I was put in the top sets at school I thought I’m going to be caught out soon enough, they’ve got it wrong. We now know this is ‘imposter syndrome’ and so many very successful people feel this all the time. I remember specific instances when friend’s parents looked at me a certain way, I thought because of my accent or where I came from. These are just times where my feelings of not being good enough were intense. This showed up in some aspects of my life and not others.
It doesn’t make sense, right.
In work I was a success, I felt confident, I became skilled and I received promotion after promotion. I thrived on it. Give me 24 hours-notice to present to a room full of people and I will be in my element…
BUT… Invite me out with your friends that I haven’t met before and I wanted to be sick. I mean I hated it. I would do anything to sabotage this situation so it didn’t have to play out; I’ve created arguments with ex-boyfriends so we would cancel, feigned feeling unwell and my best one was to ignore it until the point I should be on my way to the event and I would just send the lame arse text about not being able to make it. The worst thing was I knew that I was behaving in this way but didn’t understand it. You know that feeling? One time was a friend’s wedding – that is bad right.
How else did it show up
I would re-run every conversation to examine how I came across, could I have said something differently. Did they like me, did they think I’m an annoying t**t, it wont be long before they uncover that I’m not likeable! I also had this story that you wont like me when you first meet me but you might then come to like me! I was totally setting myself up for failure and immediate alienation from the get go.
These stories manifest and then when we behave in the way that we have told ourselves and learned we reinforce them even more. When I had a Limiting Belief change and deleted the garbage belief of ‘I’m not good enough’ and replaced it with something far more resourceful, positive, powerful and totally kick ass my life started to change.
The Limiting Belief
I had a Limiting Belief that I wasn’t good enough running through my neurology but I didn’t know. I can now see the experiences that contributed to this feeling and all the times that it was reinforced making it fixed and giving this story power. I had no idea that this was impacting on me so much until I had NLP and Time Line Therapy. 20 years of yoga and now 3 sessions of NLP and boom I was so much more enlightened and had such a shift it was and is remarkable. 20 bloody years!!!
The impact of a Belief Change through NLP
I can not put into words how carefree I feel. I don’t play any conversations back in my head, I don’t shy away from any opportunity and I don’t need to re-evaluate anything as I am now myself in every situation. It really doesn’t matter how people receive me as I am just my authentic self. I am now totally showing up for myself, my life and my business and life is now in total abundance in every way.
Due to my belief change through NLP and Time Line Therapy, it is my total passion to share this with others and help them to be free of any Limiting Beliefs and Live life to the fullest now.
If anything, I have said resonates with you then good, that’s amazing as you have awareness and that is the first step to making change fast with me. I now love helping recognise behaviours and stories that are just not helping you and replacing them with positive beliefs and manifesting beautiful and powerful outcomes for people’s lives. I would love nothing more than to work with you.
With great respect and gratitude,